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Confidence versus Shyness Moments

Okay, It's a given you're a lioness among cubs. It's also a given that you believe you're pretty confident. So, what's up with shyness moments. One day you're moving along your life's direction bold, confident and with greatness of purpose and then out of no where a shyness moment. Perhaps the trigger for you is that cute guy that just happens to pay you a compliment in an unpretentious manner that takes you by surprise. Or, perhaps you're engaged in a conversation with a friend and that friend unloads a sniper attack style insult out of left field that floors you. Or maybe a family acquaintance makes a off-handed remark that makes you feel like you're twelve years- old again. Instantly, you know you are in the throws of a shyness moment. You can't speak. You're a twelve year- old trapped in an adults body with the articulation and mental skills of a two year- old. And when the spell of that shyness moment has worn off you're left with the burning humiliation of reliving that moment over and over again in the purgatory of your mind.

Why do people have shyness moments? Well, everyone is vulnerable. You bleed like any other mortal, unfortunately. I don't like shyness moments any better than anyone else but the more I talk to people about them the more I realize that it isn't reserved for the introverted set. Yes, the extroverted are plagued with shyness moments too. Everyone has moments when their grace and wit abandons them and making them appear as if they have the savvy of a preemie slobbering on their mother's necks.

Confidence isn't something you have like that car or like that house. Confidence is something that requires constant attention. Confidence is a muscle that must be flexed often to maintain its health. Considering the complexities of life and various backgrounds and family issues, it's no wonder that most of us feel as if we should be residing in a funny farm or at least sending those offending relatives and or loved ones to one (first class of course).

This is why I preach about having adventures. The exhilaration of trying something new and stretching yourself beyond the limits of what you think is comfortable can go a long way in keeping the resiliency in the muscle of confidence. Remember growth happens in the midst of our greatest trials. If you want to know if someone will be there for you, then watch how they behave in the midst of their greatest trials but I digress. I don't like trials anymore than anyone else but it is our task in life to learn to navigate successfully through whatever hurtles are placed in our paths. It sucks but there you have it the answer to why we live and you thought you had to go sit on top of a mountain for it. No, love is always the greatest of all mysteries... but I digress again. 

And now back to shyness moments (SM)...I don't know why shyness moments happen. I do know that the "stealthy devil" (SM) usually happens when we are minding our own business and striding through life with ease and dignity. And during these times, we should be on guard. Remember to be gentle with yourself and kind to those who are suffering through their shyness moments, after-all even a lioness can have an off day or two.

Angelia Miller

Diva Maverick Mavens  

8 Steps to Your Inner Diva -- Diamonds and Masters

 

8 Steps to Following Your Inner Diva to Empowerment

Carbon pressurized in the earth's crust through millions of years becomes a diamond. With continuous buffing its many facets over time and with painstaking care becomes visible. Discovering your self-worth begins with learning to appreciate who you are now, just as you are now, till death do you part now, with all your imperfections now. Even the most magnificent diamonds have carbon deposits within. The journey doesn't include ridding yourself of these carbon deposits but in polishing your veneer. "Diamonds are forever." Debeers.

It was T.S. Elliot that said, "We shall not cease from exploring." If we cease exploring we no longer grow and we die. Exploring our imperfections can be a painful process until we realize that no one wants perfection. Why do collectors pay so much money for handmade originals with imperfections, museums are filled with imperfect works of art, and archaeologist happily dig in the drudge to find a piece of a vase, because they know the value of a gift made by the hands of a master. You are a gift fashioned by the master. Several years ago the Sistine Chapel went through a major restoration project. The paintings in the main gallery after many years of exposure to the environment had yellowed and darkened. The restoration was painstaking, it involved removing years of soot and layers of paint to reveal the original vivacious, celebratory vision that Michelangelo had originally intended.

In the great vastness of our corner of the Milky Way there are over 100 billion earth-like planets and in all of this there is only "one" of you. Wendell Holmes said it best, "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." Upon closer inspection of a work of art you can see the masters thought process, what strokes he has taken, which direction he was planning and so it is with us. All that we are, all that we hope to be, bears closer inspection, not to scrutinize, but to be inspired by the mind of the master.

Diva Empowerment ACTION Steps:

Diva Exercises Group 1

1. Ask a group of friends and not family to write down 5 personality traits about you they admire? Then ask them to write 5 gifts they believe you possess.

2. Read these statements and put them away for a few days. You need time to digest what is written.

3. After you have waited a few days "gently and lovingly" inquire as to why your friends wrote what they did.

Diva Exercises Group 2

1. Journal about the vision you hold for your life. Do not censor yourself. Do not judge.

2. When you have retrieved the comments from your friends, in a journal write about your past experiences with the gifts and personality traits that were mentioned.

3. Next journal about what you consider to be your unique gifts and compare your friend's points to your own. Are you living an authentic life? Are you representing yourself in a way that is in harmony with the vision you are holding for your life?

4. Journal about the person you are today. Journal about who you want to be in the next 5, 10 or 15 years. Are there any incongruences in your life scripting? How can you change your present life scripting to be in harmony with your vision? What is the cost of not honoring the vision you hold of yourself?

5. Come back to your entries in a few days or a few months and do the exercises again. Repeat the exercises quarterly throughout the year. Learn to course correct until your life becomes the Diva Maverick Mavens vision you hold for yourself.

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Angelia Miller is the founder of Diva Maverick Mavens www.divamaverickmavens.com a new bread of feisty, non-conformist adventure loving adrenaline-high entrepreneur. The tagline is: Empowering Women by Interviewing Empowered Women...Inspiring "You" to Take ACTION! Casting exceptional dynamic talent for fresh content is the mission of Diva Maverick Mavens. Diva Empowerment Articles are written by Angelia Miller.

 

Honoring your Impulses to Greatness in 3 Easy Steps

Have you ever roamed the aisles of your favorite bookstore and out of the corner of your eye a book catches your attention? Today, I was roaming and found the answer to a question I asked God in a book, in the form of a quote. Wallace Wattle said, “By thought the thing you want is brought to you. BY ACTION YOU RECEIVE IT.” Pardon the caps but we all know that we have been guilty of not taking action on an inspirational thought that was given to us.

I once heard divine inspiration defined as a flash of illumination and in an instant it fades. These divine photographic flashes are different from the ego-driven thoughts of:  I ought to do this or that. How many times have we received great ideas that we didn’t take action on IMMEDIATELY i.e. procrastination? DIVINE INSPIRATION IS TIME SENSATIVE. You must act quickly so that the next inspirational thought of divine guidance can be given. These actions are like a ladder and if you miss a step you may stay stuck on that step for years.

Don’t allow the ego to rationalize why you shouldn’t take action with statements such as: “Lots of other people have done this before”, “No one wants to hear from me”, “Who would listen to me” and so on etcetera. This advice is in alignment with the advice my brother, Charles, has given me. He is an action oriented- person and I am a let- us- think- about-this person.  Sure, I’ve acted without haste on what I thought was inspiration (most likely ego) and have gotten burned but the interesting thing about these experiences are I actually felt like I was living a passion- purpose life.

My brother believes in taking action first and taking care of the details afterwards and his life has been a passionate adventure. He will not die wishing he had taken advantage of this or that opportunity. There is beauty in this kind of living and if we are to embrace the most sacred profound belief in our life’s purpose we must be willing to jump into the unknown, take a risk and figure out the details afterwards. I know at times this can be scary but if you want to have the kind of success that the Oprah’s of this world enjoy your going to have to take calculated risks-big risks.

You must be willing to be stretched like taffy in all directions until you believe you will snap and even then you will be called to stretch yourself even more. This is what living a purposeful life is about. It’s the secret success trait of WINNERS. Embrace your inner warrior and move to ACTIONwhen divine guidance whispers.

Jump start exercises:

1. Think of 3 activities you haven't done before or have always wanted to do and schedule them all for this month.

2. Live on the momentum of doing something new and exciting and push yourself to do 3 things that will challenge you both physically and mentally.

3. Honor 3 small impulses of guidance this month and see how much you will grow.  

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Angelia Miller is the founder of Diva Maverick Mavens www.divamaverickmavens.com a new bread of feisty, non-conformist adventure loving adrenaline-high entrepreneur. The tagline is: Empowering Women by Interviewing Empowered Women...Inspiring "You" to Take ACTION! Casting exceptional dynamic talent for fresh content is the mission of Diva Maverick Mavens. Diva Empowerment Articles are written by Angelia Miller.